In honor of turning 15 tomorrow, I decided to make a post about 15 things I’ve learned in the past year! Unfortunately, I struggled a lot with self-confidence as well as finding the motivation to keep up with school, friendships, and activities I usually enjoyed doing. Although, I learned quite a bit from all of these experiences which is what I’m sharing with you today! 🙂

 

  1. Appreciate everything- This year was one of which I endured many losses and disappointments. I realized not too long ago that the saying “you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone” is seriously true. Appreciate those around you and what you have because you never know how fast that could change.
  2. Life is what you make of it- This one kinda goes along with appreciating everything, but life is too short to let it pass you by. Go out, have fun, make new friends!
  3. Change for yourself, not for others- I think we have all struggled with this at some point in our lives. We tend to change to fit in with those around us and to fit the “norm” or standard. I learned to be who I want to be, and I am so much happier this way.
  4. Never settle for less- If you know you can do more–do it. Doing the bare minimum won’t get you very far.
  5. Occasionally spending time alone is soo important- I like being around people more than I like being alone. So, I don’t typically spend time alone, but when I do, it helps me get myself together. This could mean being with your thoughts for a little while, taking a warm bath, or maybe just listening to music in your room. Whatever it is, don’t be afraid to take time for yourself.
  6. Writing your thoughts down can be easier than expressing them out loud- This one is a personal preference, but I decided to include it in case you might want to try it. I get pretty awkward when talking about my thoughts and feelings with other people. I’m not sure why, it’s just always been a difficult thing for me to do. This year I picked up journaling which is an easier way to express my emotions. It feels good to write it all down, and nobody has to read it!
  7. Know what’s true and what isn’t- Rumors. I dealt with them more than I would’ve liked to in the past year. They suck and no one likes them, so let’s just get rid of them!
  8. A good laugh can fix a lot- If you’re having an argument with a friend, a laugh can definitely help the process of resolving the issue. I’m not saying the issue will magically disappear, but it lightens the mood and might make it easier to work it out.
  9. You’ll be happier once you start looking for beauty in the little things- Especially with Covid-19 limiting activities we can do and people we can see at the moment, looking for beauty in the little things is something you need to start doing if you haven’t already. That could be appreciating a phone call with a friend, a walk in the park, or even the fall leaves changing color.
  10. Know your priorities- Is your biggest priority school? Maybe sports? Your social life? Once you figure out your priorities, you will be able to focus on them and know what you need to get done.
  11. Stop. comparing. yourself.- I know, I know–everyone says this. But it seriously is beneficial in so many different ways! Each and every one of us is beautiful! We all have our strong areas, and we all have our weaknesses. Comparing yourself is terrible for your mental health which affects your happiness as well. Instead, we can start learning to love ourselves for who we are!
  12. Step outside of your comfort zone and try new things- This is another basic one… oops. Throughout the year, I was faced with many difficult decisions. Although, I got to try out different opportunities and witness things I wouldn’t have witnessed if I had played it safe. You can make some of your best memories by trying new things and stepping outside of your comfort zone!
  13. Find balance in your life- I feel like we don’t talk about balance as much as we should. I didn’t have balance in my life until about a month ago, and this was one of the best changes I made this year! Both my education and social life are very important to me, so I made a plan. I knew which days I would dedicate to homework/studying and which I would use to hang out with friends or talk to them on the phone. I’ve been less stressed since then and built better relationships.
  14. Cut out all toxic people- This one was probably the hardest for me to do because it took me a while to realize who was negatively affecting my mental health. Trust me, once you get rid of toxic people, you will feel so much better!
  15. Take care of yourself- Lastly, I learned that is so, so important to take care of yourself. Meaning both mentally and physically. Take a break when you need, drink some water, talk to someone. Do whatever it takes to make sure you’re feeling good and energized!

 

And that concludes today’s blog post! Thanks so much for stopping by, and as always, I hope to see you again soon! 🙂

Love, Brenna